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More information about family dynamics and patterns

This information is only a summary of hidden family dynamics and patterns. It gives you an idea how family dynamics can affect your daily life.

A few basic systemic (family) principles

Carrying somebody else's burden

The order of the family system

Roles within the family

Abortions, miscarriage,stillborn

Causes of death within the family

Diseasses and illnesses

Immigration

Forbidden love

Divorces

Religion

Sexual abuse

Addictions to substances

Addictions are generally seen as a way to relieve and thus not or hardly experience any emotions and/or emotional pain. Many addictions make you numb for a while, so you won’t or can’t feel anything. Addictions can also be a family pattern, a way of ‘coping’ with things.  Children copy their parents’ coping behaviour as a way of dealing with things. Or the children try to carry a family member’s burden and if this gets too much the person get addicted in order not to feel anymore.

Another possibility is that an addiction is an (constant) act of self destruction. The person doesn’t love himself perhaps as a result of emotional abuse and abuses himself in a different way. Addictions can also be seen systemically as a slow way of killing yourself.

Or maybe the person is connected to an ancestor and entangled with this person’s fate. Usually the ancestor is an excluded deceased family member. The person wants to (subconsciously) follow the ancestor into death. The person knows the addiction is bad thing but is not able to stop. If you explore your family history you might find subconscious addictions patterns or entanglement within your family system.

writting down your own family history

Emotional and physical abuse

Addictions to substances

Psychological problems within the family

Family secret(s)

War experiences

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