More information about family dynamics and patternsThis information is only a summary of hidden family dynamics and patterns. It gives you an idea how family dynamics can affect your daily life.
A few basic systemic (family) principlesCarrying somebody else's burdenThe order of the family systemRoles within the familyAbortions, miscarriage,stillbornCauses of death within the familyDiseasses and illnessesImmigrationForbidden loveDivorcesReligion |
Carrying sombody else's burdenThere are many occasions where a person will carry, subconsciously, a burden for another family member. A lot of children will take on the burden from one of the parents out of love, fear, or out of feeling powerless.
The child will try to make life more ‘bearable’ for the parent this way but it will be at his own expense. Sometimes the child will go as far as ‘destroying’ himself in order to save the parent by subconsciously thinking ‘rather I go than you’. This can take on all sorts of forms. This can take on all sorts of forms. If we find out what burden you carry, we can let you (symbolically under guidance) give this burden back to the ‘universe’. By doing this the parent can take back his/her own responsibility and you will experience a peaceful feeling, like a weight has been lifted of your shoulders. |