More information about family dynamics and patternsThis information is only a summary of hidden family dynamics and patterns. It gives you an idea how family dynamics can affect your daily life.
A few basic systemic (family) principlesCarrying somebody else's burdenThe order of the family systemRoles within the familyAbortions, miscarriage,stillbornCauses of death within the familyDiseasses and illnessesImmigrationForbidden loveDivorcesReligionSexual abuse |
Family dynamics and patterns Tight family ties?
We rarely think about it, but every family has its own history and due to this its own dynamics. Family dynamics in the form of certain things being valued, emotions (un)allowed, things not talked about, kept secret, etc. It might have changed (sub-consciously) how you
experience the world around you and how you think and/or behave and raise your children yourself. By repeating these things or the patterns are ‘handed down’ the family line, most of the time without even realizing it. We often say “History has a way of repeating itself” but don’t realize that the way is through our families and our patterns. The same or at least similar dynamics from the past are likely to be still present in your generation by being passed on by previous generations. In one way or another these family dynamics or patterns are likely to have affected you, just as previous family members were affected by these patterns. A family or organization can be viewed as a system, where the different parts have to work together in order to function properly. Like in a car, one part can cause the whole system to malfunction. The part (a person) that is having problems can be a symptom of a malfunctioning system, not causing but instead signalling the problem. The idea of a family or organization being a system has been used on a limited basis in life coaching and counselling but with great success and with amazing, virtually instant results. Results are not only achieved in a short time span but also with a profound and lasting effect. |