More information about family dynamics and patterns
This information is only a summary of hidden family dynamics and patterns. It gives you an idea how family dynamics can affect your daily life.
Forbidden first love
Inquire if your (grand)parents married their first loves. Often people were not allowed to date and marry their first loves because the lover was from another religion or not religious at all, came from the wrong part of the town, etc. Not being able to ‘love the one you love’ could have influenced the relationship with another partner afterwards, for instance, the level of committing to the new partner.
Your first love stays with you in a way, especially when you have been intimate with him or her. In many cases usually the first child or a later childe carries some of that energy of the first forbidden love/relationship. Because the first love did not work out the first child could suffer to some degree from fear of commitment.
Example: a father and a son are having problems all the time. They don’t get along and have really no idea why. In their arguments the competitive element is hard to miss. In this example the mother had a first but forbidden love. It is possible that the first born (the son) still carries some of the first love’s energy with him and on a subconscious level feels excluded as he is connected somehow with the first ‘rejected’ love.
The son subconsciously wants to make the first love visible. The father reacts to his son’s energy of the first love and fights with him, confusing his son with the first love of his wife on subconscious level. The son feels excluded and rejected and fights back. The mother protects her son and feels strongly attracted to him also confusing him with her first love. The situation can drive a wig between the partners as well and could affect the whole family.