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More information about family dynamics and patterns

This information is only a summary of hidden family dynamics and patterns. It gives you an idea how family dynamics can affect your daily life.

A few basic systemic (family) principles

Carrying somebody else's burden

The order of the family system

Roles within the family

Abortions, miscarriage,stillborn

Causes of death within the family

Diseasses and illnesses

Immigration

Forbidden love

Divorces

Religion

Sexual abuse

Phychological problems in the family

Psychological problems can be a family pattern as well, ‘It runs in the family’, so to speak. When a family member has committed suicide, often in his family history there are more suicide cases and/or at least attempts of other family members.
 
If this is the case entanglements within the family system are likely. This kind of suicide usually doesn’t come unexpected as the family member usually has a history of psychological problems. He is struggling with life, nearly literally. He wants to kill himself but often doesn’t know why. On soul level he just wants to follow the other family member in death.

There is another underlying pattern within families. For instance, if a father is depressed for a long period it will affect his family. One of the children, usually the one most susceptible, could try to help the father and carry some of his father’s burden. On a systemic subconscious level it is an act of love from the child.
 
If the burden in the form of a depression for the father gets too heavy, the child out  of love might commit suicide and in a way by this act subconsciously say “I’ll go in your place”, or “It is better that I go then you”. The child gives his own life so the father can live his. They are both likely to be connected to something that happened in the family history. With suicides running in the family, children within these families are particularly at risk.

It’s important to look into physiological patterns in the family history to find a way to break to pattern.

writting down your own family history

Emotional and physical abuse

Addictions to substances

Psychological problems within the family

Family secret(s)

War experiences

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