More information about family dynamics and patterns
This information is only a summary of hidden family dynamics and patterns. It gives you an idea how family dynamics can affect your daily life.
The order of the family system
The Order in the family system
Every family has, just as every system, a kind of order. If something disturbs the family system every family member will feel this. By addressing the problem you will be able to bring the system back in balance.
First in the system is the father (or the mother if she is the breadwinner), to the right (when facing the family) the mother, the firstborn, second child and so on. Often things are not ‘in order’, not how they are supposed to be.
In this approach you will (unconsciously) place manikins/representatives as representatives of your family. When you as a client do a family constellation of your family (of origin) you will notice, just by looking at the representatives (manikins), that something isn’t quite right with the order in your family, the places the various family members are standing in.
The goal is to bring your family system back in balance. By putting the family members (manikins) in their rightful places, there where they belong, you will notice the system will become at ease. The same can be said about unborn children taking their rightful place; miscarriages, abortions and still born children. When you put these children where they belong, the feeling of something being ‘not quite right’ will have gone.
If the family system is back in order again it will affect (on a subconscious level) the whole family, very often we hear back from clients that they notice the differents right away, not only within themselves but also by observing other family members.